Porsha Principle 5: Avoid the fire starters…they can ignite a blaze.

Porsha Jones
Relationships are susceptible to fires breaking out ranging from small sparks to full scale blazes. The fire starter can be criticism, blaming, shaming, or a number of other behaviors which can then result in a reaction in your partner that then ignites a reaction in you, and back and forth until, before you know it, you find yourself in a fire storm.

In this video, Porsha identifies common emotional fire starters and gives you specific strategies for preventing them in the first place, and for extinguishing them before the fire starter results in a blaze that ruins an evening, a weekend, or even the entire relationship. She ends with describing an activity, Fire Drill, which provides you practice in extinguishing fires.


  • What are Fire Starters?
    • Gottman's Four Horseman of the Apocalypse
    • Nine Other Common Fire Starters
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Intervention Strategies
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (Fire Drill: Practicing Extinguishing Fires)

Course Features

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