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Introduction to The Porsha Principles

The Porsha Principles are the product of thousands of hours that Porsha has spent with couples helping them overcome the negativity in their relationships so they could begin creating a lifelong of happiness. These eight principles provide the roadmap for deepening intimacy, building stronger connection, managing your differences, resolving conflict, repairing ruptures, and so much more.

In this introductory video, Porsha defines the goal of the video series and describes what she calls a “lifelong honeymoon.” She explains the reasons why the typical honeymoon ends and why that shouldn’t happen. She provides an overview of each of the Porsha Principles, and she covers ways you can learn and use the principles with your partner, including how you can take The Principles Assessment to identify those principles you and your partner can most benefit from.

Agenda

  • Introducing Pam and Marcus
  • Our Purpose
  • What is a Lifelong Honeymoon?
  • What Causes the Honeymoon to End?
  • A Summary of the Porsha Principles
  • Your Next Steps (The Principles Assessment)

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]]> Porsha Principle 1: Let them know you…not your representative. https://porshaprinciples.com/course/let-them-know-younot-your-representative/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:17:23 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9654 The complexities, challenges, stresses of life often compel us to put up a false face – a kind of representative – to “outsiders.” However, when these very same outsiders turn into insiders – which happens when you fall in love …

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The complexities, challenges, stresses of life often compel us to put up a false face – a kind of representative – to “outsiders.” However, when these very same outsiders turn into insiders – which happens when you fall in love – your true self emerges, and sometimes, it can surprise your partner. What’s worse, during times of duress, this “representative” can creep up between you two and create ruptures and other roadblocks to joy in your relationship.
In this video, Porsha explains what a representative is, how to prevent it from dictating your relationship, identify when your partner’s representative is seizing control, and several strategies to subdue it and reclaim the deep connection you previously shared. She also introduces you to The Parts of Me, an activity you and your partner can do to help identify distinct parts of each other that show up at different times in the relationship.

Agenda

  • Introduction
  • What is a Representative?
  • Authenticity: A Key to a Lifelong Honeymoon
  • Who’s “Reppin” You?
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Intervention Strategies
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (The Parts of Me)

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]]> Porsha Principle 2: Cultivate intimacy…at deeper levels https://porshaprinciples.com/course/cultivate-intimacyat-deeper-levels/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:16:20 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9659 “What is intimacy?” It means different things to different people. For some, it’s about spending time together; for some, it could be about honest and heartfelt communication; for others, it’s about the sexual relationship. In this video, Porsha discusses what …

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“What is intimacy?” It means different things to different people. For some, it’s about spending time together; for some, it could be about honest and heartfelt communication; for others, it’s about the sexual relationship.

In this video, Porsha discusses what intimacy really is, how to assess the depth of your intimacy, keys to deeper intimacy, and strategies to employ to increase the depth of intimacy in your relationship. Porsha also introduces you to the Intimacy Game, an activity for you and your partner to deepen the level of intimacy in your relationship.

Agenda

  • Introduction
  • What Is Intimacy?
  • How Do You Assess the Depth of Intimacy in Your Relationship?
  • What Are the 3 Keys for Deeper Intimacy?
  • What about the Sex Thing?
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Intervention Strategies
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (The Intimacy Game)

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]]> Porsha Principle 3: Lift your partner…every day https://porshaprinciples.com/course/porsha-principle-3-lift-your-partnerevery-day/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:15:13 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9672 Intimate relationships typically begin with some form of the honeymoon phase – a period of boundless excitement, thrill, joy, and upliftment that you experience in the company of each other. Unfortunately, for most of us, the honeymoon phase eventually ends, …

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Intimate relationships typically begin with some form of the honeymoon phase – a period of boundless excitement, thrill, joy, and upliftment that you experience in the company of each other. Unfortunately, for most of us, the honeymoon phase eventually ends, even though we all would love for it to continue. A key to a lifelong honeymoon is for both partners to pay attention to lifting their partner every day. But to do this successfully and consistently, takes awareness, commitment, and focus. In this video, Porsha uses Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages to help you learn what specifically lifts you partner and then provides insights and strategies that you can use to make a habit of lifting your partner every day.

Agenda

  • Introduction
  • What Are Love Languages?
  • How Do You Learn Your Partner’s Love Language?
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Intervention Strategies
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (How to Love Me)

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]]> Porsha Principle 4: Manage the differences…with care and communication https://porshaprinciples.com/course/manage-the-differenceswith-care-and-communication/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:14:35 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9675 “Opposites attract” because a partner who is different from you takes you on a journey, an adventure if you will, into a world of experiences that you have never had or been too shy or too driven (or something in …

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“Opposites attract” because a partner who is different from you takes you on a journey, an adventure if you will, into a world of experiences that you have never had or been too shy or too driven (or something in between) to pursue. However, as the initial excitement ebbs, these very opposites can lead to friction, conflict, and stress.

In this video Porsha explains why it is so important to manage differences and provides both proactive and intervention strategies for managing differences in your relationship. She shows you how to use the Couples Tendency Profile for identifying significant differences between you and your partner.

Agenda

  • Introduction
  • Communication Styles
  • Style Differences
  • Focusing on Your Key Differences
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Intervention Strategy
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (The Couples Tendency Profile)

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]]> Porsha Principle 5: Avoid the fire starters…they can ignite a blaze. https://porshaprinciples.com/course/avoid-the-fire-startersthey-can-ignite-a-blaze/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:13:38 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9688 Relationships are susceptible to fires breaking out ranging from small sparks to full scale blazes. The fire starter can be criticism, blaming, shaming, or a number of other behaviors which can then result in a reaction in your partner that …

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Relationships are susceptible to fires breaking out ranging from small sparks to full scale blazes. The fire starter can be criticism, blaming, shaming, or a number of other behaviors which can then result in a reaction in your partner that then ignites a reaction in you, and back and forth until, before you know it, you find yourself in a fire storm.

In this video, Porsha identifies common emotional fire starters and gives you specific strategies for preventing them in the first place, and for extinguishing them before the fire starter results in a blaze that ruins an evening, a weekend, or even the entire relationship. She ends with describing an activity, Fire Drill, which provides you practice in extinguishing fires.

Agenda

  • What are Fire Starters?
    • Gottman's Four Horseman of the Apocalypse
    • Nine Other Common Fire Starters
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Intervention Strategies
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (Fire Drill: Practicing Extinguishing Fires)

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]]> Porsha Principle 6: Address conflict…resolve disagreements https://porshaprinciples.com/course/address-conflictresolve-disagreements/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:13:12 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9691 Most of the families we grew up in didn’t teach us how to address conflict in a healthy way. As a result, many couples are poorly equipped to handle disagreements and so react with either fight, flight, or freeze responses, …

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Most of the families we grew up in didn’t teach us how to address conflict in a healthy way. As a result, many couples are poorly equipped to handle disagreements and so react with either fight, flight, or freeze responses, none of which are helpful in creating lifelong fulfilling relationships.

In this video, Porsha describes the three reasons people disagree and uses numerous role plays to demonstrate the type of real-life disagreements that occur between couples. She then follows with specific strategies you can use to defuse disagreements and even to prevent disagreements them. She closes with a roadmap you can use to navigate through disagreements in your relationship and with Learning from Past Disagreements, an exercise to put this principle into practice.

Agenda

  • Introduction
  • Solving Level-1 Disagreements: Information
  • Solving Level-2 Disagreements: Different Values
  • Solving Level-3 Disagreements: Outside Factors
  • Determining the Type of Disagreement
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (Learning from Past Disagreements)

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]]> Porsha Principle 7: Repair the ruptures…they can ruin you. https://porshaprinciples.com/course/repair-the-rupturesthey-can-ruin-you/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:12:30 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9694 No relationship is immune to hurt. Sometimes, the damage is superficial, and you laugh it off together, but occasionally, it can cut deep into the relationship and leave a scar. No matter the damage, couples should proactively work on healing …

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No relationship is immune to hurt. Sometimes, the damage is superficial, and you laugh it off together, but occasionally, it can cut deep into the relationship and leave a scar. No matter the damage, couples should proactively work on healing the hurt they experience in their relationships and repairing the damage.

In this video, Porsha describes the three types of ruptures that occur in relationships (scrapes, bruises, and deep cuts) and offers practical strategies for preventing ruptures from occurring and for cleanly recovering from ruptures so that they don’t jeopardize the relationship. She closes by instructing you in how to perform a Rupture Review, a chance to learn from past ruptures and to repair any unhealed ruptures.

Agenda

  • Introduction
  • Attachment Bonds and Emotional Responsiveness
  • The 3 Types of Ruptures and Their Causes
  • Intervention Strategies
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (Rupture Review)

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]]> Porsha Principle 8: Profess, protect, and prioritize the relationship…with your thoughts, words, and actions. https://porshaprinciples.com/course/profess-protect-and-prioritize-the-relationship/ Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:11:04 +0000 https://porshaprinciples.com/?post_type=lp_course&p=9697 You can think of Porsha Principle #8 as being all about preventive maintenance: the things you are going to do and not do on an ongoing basis to keep your lifelong honeymoon going! Imagine your partner in a room filled …

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You can think of Porsha Principle #8 as being all about preventive maintenance: the things you are going to do and not do on an ongoing basis to keep your lifelong honeymoon going! Imagine your partner in a room filled with people they find highly attractive. What would you want your partner to do to protect your relationship? How would you want your partner to profess the relationship when talking about you? And outside of that room, what are the things you would want you and your partner to be doing on a regular basis to ensure that you are together prioritizing the relationship?

In this video, Porsha shares key strategies that guide you and your partner in creating healthy boundaries and relationship rituals that help ensure that you are together professing, protecting, and prioritizing your relationship. In this final video, Porsha also shows you how to develop your Couple’s Action Plan, the steps you agree to take daily, weekly, and monthly to help ensure that you are sustaining your lifelong honeymoon.

Agenda

  • Introduction
  • The Power of Thinking and the Importance of Boundaries
  • Proactive Strategies
  • Intervention Strategies
  • Putting the Principle into Practice (Your Couple’s Action Plan)

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