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Assessment ForPartner (premium report only)
Porsha Jones
pljones75@yahoo.com
March 27, 2022

Summary

Average
Score		Principle
6.31: Let them know you...not your representative
3.02: Cultivate intimacy...at deeper levels
3.03: Lift your partner...every day
4.04: Manage the differences...with care and communication
3.75: Avoid the fire starters...they can ignite a blaze
4.06: Address conflict...resolve differences
4.37: Repair the ruptures...they can ruin you
4.08: Profess, protect, and prioritize the relationship...with your thoughts, words, and actions.

Detail

Porsha

P1: Let them know you...not your representative
Average6.3Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
1.1 We are our authentic selves with each other nearly all the time.6
 
1.2 We avoid showing up with one of the common representatives (Silent Martyr, Pleaser, Placater, Deflector, Workaholic, Jokester, Aggressor).7
 
1.3 We call each other out when one of us is representing instead of being authentic.6
 

Porsha

P2: Cultivate intimacy...at deeper levels
Average3.0Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
2.1 We feel very close and connected in our relationship.3
 
2.2 In our communication, we talk about our feelings, desires, fears, and dreams.3
 
2.3 We are curious about each other, ask questions of one another, and seek to deeply understand each other’s needs and wants.3
 

Porsha

P3: Lift your partner...every day
Average3.0Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
3.1 We know each other’s primary and secondary love languages.4
 
3.2 We consistently take steps to love our partner the way our partner wants to be loved.3
 
3.3 We regularly check-in to ensure we are both feeling loved and lifted by the other.2
 

Porsha

P4: Manage the differences...with care and communication
Average4.0Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
4.1 We have identified our major differences that impact the relationship.5
 
4.2 We have developed strategies and successfully use them in managing our differences.3
 
4.3 We are caring and considerate when we have conflict over a difference.4
 

Porsha

P5: Avoid the fire starters...they can ignite a blaze
Average3.7Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
5.1 We have identified two or more things each of us do that tend to be fire starters.4
 
5.2 We actively and intentionally do specific things to eliminate fire starters.4
 
5.3 When a fire ignites, we quickly take steps to prevent it from becoming a blaze.3
 

Porsha

P6: Address conflict...resolve differences
Average4.0Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
6.1 We have identified the major areas of our relationship that frequently cause disagreements for us.5
 
6.2 We have determined the type and reason for our major disagreements and have identified strategies for addressing each one.4
 
6.3 When disagreements occur we are proactive and employ our strategies for addressing them.3
 

Porsha

P7: Repair the ruptures...they can ruin you
Average4.3Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
7.1 We have discussed and resolved past ruptures that have occurred in our relationship.4
 
7.2 We have regular check-ins to ensure that scrapes, bruises, and deep cuts are identified.5
 
7.3 We have agreed on strategies and use them to address ruptures that occur.4
 

Porsha

P8: Profess, protect, and prioritize the relationship...with your thoughts, words, and actions.
Average4.0Strongly
Disagree
1		2Disagree
3		4Agree
5		6Strongly
Agree
7
8.1 We have established boundaries in key areas to protect our relationship and we ensure boundaries are respected.4
 
8.2 We both feel that the other prioritizes our relationship.4
 
8.3 We regularly speak positively about our partner in front of our family, friends, and work associates.4
 

Your Lowest Score and Recommended Action

Your lowest scoring principle was:

P8: Profess, protect, and prioritize the relationship...with your thoughts, words, and actions. (4.0)

8.1 We have established boundaries in key areas to protect our relationship and we ensure boundaries are respected. (4)

8.2 We both feel that the other prioritizes our relationship. (4)

8.3 We regularly speak positively about our partner in front of our family, friends, and work associates. (4)

The "recommended action" that follows is adapted from The Porsha Principles eBook. For more information on the action, refer to the section in the book which covers this principle.

Recommended Action

All three questions in this principle were below the 5.0 target.

A key to protecting your relationship is setting healthy boundaries. Consider establishing boundaries in areas such as the following.
  • Dealing with family members
  • Spending time with the opposite sex
  • Former lovers
  • Disciplining children
  • Communicating with one another
  • Spending money
  • Working hours
Should a boundary be violated, consider the following steps.
  • Don't be quiet. When you feel a boundary has been violated, avoid being the silent martyr. Use assertive communication skills.
    • Use "I statements."
    • Use feeling words.
    • Ask specifically for what you need.
  • Be emotionally responsive. Validate your partner's emotion, and make sure things are repaired with your partner before you move on.
  • Take responsibility. If the rupture is a bruise or deep cut, in which one of you is indeed at fault, part of the repair requires the offending partner to take responsibility as soon as possible for their action.
  • Be aware of differing interpretations. If the issue is just a matter of differences, it is important for both partners to recognize the difference and work out a solution for the future, versus creating a deeper rupture by arguing over who is at fault and who is not.
Consider strategies to give the relationship greater priority, such as the following.
  • Relax and unwind; take some time to focus on each other in a beautiful location.
  • Create a bucket list of experiences you want to have together.
  • Hold a vow renewal to rededicate your love to one another.
  • Take quarterly excursions to have time away alone with each other.
  • Hold weekly date nights to have regular romantic connection.
  • Consider a couple's retreat to continue to build skills in sustaining healthy, positive interaction with one another.
  • Find new fun things to do together to add variety and keep things exciting.
  • Monitor how your partner is evolving by regularly checking in on changes to your partner's dreams, and to identify new interests and likes.
Consider strategies to better profess your relationship:
  • Vocalize positive thoughts and feelings about your partner.
  • Compliment your partner while speaking with others.
  • Talk about your partner to others.
  • Introduce your partner to your friends and family.
  • Stand up for your partner.
  • Support your partner's ideas and beliefs.

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